Partners are different in most aspects of their sexuality. In the falling-in-love-period sex goes straightforwardly. But in a long staying living together relationship these differences come about. They cannot be solved by negotiation because large parts of human sexuality 'happen' to us. One 'feels' a desire for sex. One 'gets' aroused. One 'gets' an erection, a vaginal lubrication, an orgasm. One 'becomes' satisfied. We cannot negotiate about these aspects because we are not in control over them.
How do couples then cope with their sexual differences? Seduction is a way to manage these differences between the partners. Satisfying sex is only possible if these differences are taken seriously. Sex in a long staying relationship is a result of a seduction wherein the sexual differences between both partners are solved. Sex has essentially to do with seducing and being seduced. Seduction is kind, tender, suggestive and not demanding.
Recorded June 12 – 16, 2011 at the 20th WAS World Congress for Sexual Health
Forging the Future: Sexual Health for the 21th Century, Glasgow, United Kingdom
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